Why no luck in love

Every man needs a woman. It's a given, with rare exceptions. Remember how you dreamed about it in your youth. You probably dreamed of meeting her, the most beautiful girl in your life, and she'd love you, then you'd start a happy family, have children. But reality has adjusted those plans a bit. Yes, there are strong, athletic guys who have everything going right in their relationships with women. But the average, intelligent guy with dreams of a loving girl unexpectedly has no luck. I mean, absolutely no luck. Yes, there are women who agree to date him, and even more, but he doesn't really like them. But with those he does like, nothing works out. They either ignore him, or they only date him to get something for themselves. And, naturally, they don't love him. But then, he finally meets someone he falls in love with. Sometimes it ends very badly, sometimes they have a relationship, but the ending is almost always the same. She leaves him. For a guy, this is usually a severe psychological blow. This pain sometimes lasts for years, and sometimes it lasts a lifetime, preventing him from building a fulfilling relationship with another woman. It seems strange that a woman doesn't appreciate being loved. After all, he'd do anything for her, even carry her in his arms! But no, that's exactly what's not needed.

The situation was so outrageous that an entire men's movement emerged to seriously address it. They uncovered something biologists have been silent about: the vestigial influence of relationships in the ape hierarchy of our distant ancestors. This theory was called ethology. It asserts that a female always seeks the dominant male in a troop, who provides the best genes for the survival of her offspring. Therefore, a woman supposedly instinctively gravitates toward this type of male within the human hierarchy, choosing the most brutal one. And he, driven by his desire to become a leader and the abundance of female attention, often ignores these very things. Therefore, the winning strategy is supposedly to ignore a woman's interests, impose your own, and remain indifferent and callous toward her. But the average guy naturally notices that no matter how much he ignores women, they still remain indifferent to him. No matter how much he demonstrates his dominance skills, it doesn't generate any interest. And yet, he himself feels strange. If he's indifferent to her, then why does he need her? It reaches the point of absurdity: the guy ignores his crush, and she's not indifferent to him, until he himself begins to develop any serious feelings for her. And from that moment on, it's as if she switches off, becoming indifferent. She either constantly irritates him, or leaves him for another man altogether. It's a strange picture: to maintain a loving relationship with a woman, you have to not love her at all! Otherwise, she'll leave. After a while, the guy realizes that everything is very complicated, and not at all what he imagined in his youth. Some men ultimately give up on starting a family altogether and remain single. Others, of course, get married. And in marriage, an unpleasant surprise often awaits them. She becomes his wife, and it's as if the beautiful girl has been replaced. She becomes dissatisfied with her husband in literally everything. It's often simply impossible to please her. Too many gifts — bad, it upsets the balance of importance; not enough gifts — also bad, it means he didn't pay enough attention. You work little, you devote all your attention to her — bad! You need to be promising and strive for success, to improve yourself. You've lost the balance of importance again. You work hard, build a career, build your own business—bad again, you've completely forgotten about her. In any of these scenarios, the woman most often leaves her man and walks away, in a state of utter indifference; reaching an agreement or reconciling with her at that moment is impossible. Sometimes, very rarely, much later, the woman gets in touch with her ex-man, but only when he no longer needs her. Not before. And then only to find out how he still feels about her. And very rarely in this case, the relationship is restored. And the woman is not particularly eager for it.

From this we can conclude that women in modern times generally do not seek to build long-term, strong relationships with men. Moreover, men who have had extensive life experience are of the opinion that women do not seek relationships at all. Instead, feminist ideas are beginning to prevail, suggesting that one can get by without a man, that children are unnecessary, and that one should love oneself first. Birth rates are falling, and families are becoming short-lived, which often has a detrimental impact on the psyche of children living in single-parent homes. But how is it that in some underdeveloped countries, this seems to be a problem altogether? They live in poverty, yet the birth rate remains high, and families are stable. And these countries even suffer from overpopulation. Conversely, in the favorable conditions of developed countries, it is often impossible to extricate oneself from endlessly complex personal relationships. Nothing lasts, and nothing seems stable. A man often doesn't want to get married at all, and the woman seems only too happy about it; she's gone off on her own, living alone, sometimes with a child. And she doesn't need anyone.

Moreover, psychologists claim that you can make a woman fall in love with you and keep her if you're not only indifferent to her, but also actually bully her, exploiting her attachment to you. You deliberately create a problematic relationship. Everything turns out the opposite of how it should be. This resembles a form of madness, where most women act contrary to logic and common sense, often to their own detriment, deliberately ignoring and missing out on good things. On the contrary, everything in personal relationships is structured so that if you love someone, they almost certainly ignore you. Psychology usually explains this with a variety of different reasons. But the simplest explanation is that an idiot acts this way, to their own detriment.

One might assume that everything depends on the difficulties, but there's a well-known example: the birth rate collapse in Russia in the 1990s. Contrary to popular belief, it began precisely in the relatively calm, stable period of 1986-1987, back in the Soviet era, and was certainly not related to a deterioration in the financial situation; it remained roughly the same as in 1984-1985, just as the economy was on the upswing. And it was precisely this deterioration that had a profoundly negative impact on relationships: the birth rate dropped to a minimum, and relationships and marriages fell apart, whereas, according to the African scenario, they should have been strengthening. Many women during this period suddenly expressed a desire to pursue a career, build their own business, something they hadn't done before, and even claimed that they had previously been denied any happiness other than family. This greatly surprised men, who hadn't expected this from them, and hadn't seen anything like this before. On the contrary, in the USSR, women were always more protected and protected from hard work. As mentioned earlier, a significant crisis emerged in the economy, science, and gender relations in the 1980s. Afterward, everything changed radically, and relations became noticeably different. Many blame feminist ideas, but in the USSR in 1986, there was no mention of feminism, and both sexes were formally considered equal. So, once again, everything is turning out the opposite of what it should be.

We need to understand something simple. It's not normal for a woman to fail to appreciate love and care for herself, but instead to value relationships that are problematic for her! A cat knows how to appreciate love, a dog knows how to appreciate it, and they often become so attached to their owner that they wait for their owner after their death, and then die of grief.

Even extremely stupid creatures such as rabbits and chickens can appreciate love and care for themselves. A woman does not know how to appreciate! She not only never appreciates this, but, on the contrary, punishes her for that, and moreover, she instinctively seeks to be hurt.

Older men have probably noticed more than once that a woman in a marriage not only constantly creates problems in the relationship, but also constantly interferes! Just when you're sitting down and thinking about your problems, you're busy with something at work, fiddling around on the computer, reading. And then she suddenly has urgent matters that need to be discussed with you right now. And she won't leave you alone, no matter how you ask her. More often than not, such situations end in a fight. Whatever your passion, it turns out to be the wrong thing. Your passion is wrong; you need to be interested in something else, something completely uninteresting to you. More fights. You want to meet up with friends, that's absolutely wrong! A fight. Often, not only wives but also mothers do this. The man doesn't understand why, and more often than not, the woman herself can't explain it.

As they age, such women often begin to behave obnoxiously. They get in everyone's way. They drag huge, overstuffed carts behind them, knocking people over in the legs, and they themselves get in the way by moving slowly down the middle. At the store or at the checkout, such an older woman does everything extremely slowly. She stands in the aisle and takes a long time, looking at everyone and blocking the counter. She's confused, she has a ton of stuff, she spends a long time rearranging her things, rummaging through her purse, which she never takes out beforehand. And she seems to not care about anyone. Others are forced to wait for her and get angry. But she's old! They should wait out of politeness. In fact, she's not old. She's just instinctively in everyone's way. She gradually becomes like this throughout her life. That's the result. Of course, none of this is a reason to hate older people. They are often truly incapable of adequately assessing their own actions due to their age, but such behavior is very irritating to others.

A strange conclusion emerges from everything described here. It's as if women today have become fundamentally opposed to what men need. And to everything else, too. It's as if everything is reversed, and it's impossible to get along with them at all. Why is all this happening?